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[kaciagemini]

Mmm, pizza.
Mmm, pizza with pepperoni, garlic, onion, green olives, fresh tomato, and cheese of course.
Premade pizza crusts are seriously the best invention ever.

Oh, hey, Rita. We still on for Saturday night partying-ish? Want us to bring anything? Food? Beer? Boardgames? Hookers? IDK.

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[ladykittykatwku.livejournal.com]

At this point, yes, we're still on. James will likely be joining us as I seem to have double booked the date >.>

However, when I woke up this morning, I snapped something in my neck and it hurts to move at the moment, and if it's not better by tomorrow, well, I'll likely be in the hospital, which I don't think will happen, but just in case, I'm lettin' ya know.

If you want to bring booze, feel free, and hookers would be fabulous. I think I've promised James meatloaf, but that can be delayed, esp. since we don't have an oven atm.. Ooo maybe we can do tacos....

[silva-draconis.livejournal.com]

Umm... I'm not inviting myself or anything, bc that's really annoying and my parents might want to spend Saturday night with me anyway, but I am coming into town saturday and spending the week at home. So yeah, ya'll wanna do anything?

...... and I felt I had to use my icon, 'cause you used yours. :D

[ladykittykatwku.livejournal.com]

I'm gonna have to talk to Daniel about it, I can tell you right now that if you do come over, the rule will probably be anyone who lives in town will probably have to go home, because we don't have the room to put up 6 people.

And by your icon, you mean the icon Jen made that you stole? lol.

[silva-draconis.livejournal.com]

uhhh.... yeah, that's what I meant by my icon. :D It's credited in my Icons. That's totally fine and I understand, like I said, I didn't want to invite myself, bc I had no clue what ya'll were doing and besides the fact that it's rude.

We should do something all together though while I'm in town. don't care much what it is.

[danielefton.livejournal.com]

saying that you aren't inviting yourself and then fishing for the invite is not cool.

Also, setting yourself up for an out if you do get invited is rude and likely not to get you an invite.

*asking* your friends to spend time with you while you are in town (some of who don't LIVE in town), when you are only going to be in town for a weekend is pitiful.

2 days notice? what kind of friend are you? You should call around, ask if anyone is free, and if you get invited to something hang out. Don't try to insinuate yourself into their plans. I'd be more likely to say 'come on over' if you had called the night of.

I would be less upset if you had commented in mine or Rita's journal instead of in Katie's since We are hosting.

all that said, drive safe, have a good weekend (whether we see you or not) and don't be such a stranger

[kaciagemini.livejournal.com]

Umm, what?

How is Laura trying to figure out if there's a possibility that she can hang out with me & jen while she's in town something that necessarily has anything to do with you? She as much as said that she *can't* do Sat. night so how is that fishing for an invite? And how does it make any sense that 2 days notice is rude but no notice is not? I, just... what? Are you high?

[danielefton.livejournal.com]

no i'm not high.

There's an etiquette to things like this. And you are right, her asking to hang out with you and jen has nothing to do with me. She said her parents might want to spend that night with her.

I just get peeved at things like that. and yes i may be wrong, but I'm either a plan things at least a week in advance kinda guy or a very spontaneous kinda guy. Plus its hard for me to say no on a regular basis. Unless i'm irritated.

so - i'm not high, but i could be experiencing IMS.

[kaciagemini.livejournal.com]

It just hardly seems like bad etiquette to me to let people know that you might be available for hanging-out-times. I mean, I don't have ESP, so without her comment I would not actually have known she was coming to town.

I'm actually kind of offended that you felt perfectly okay with walking into my journal and basically calling Laura a rude liar. I mean, seriously, I'm about as laid back as you can get without being dead and I still found that pretty damn rude and uncalled for.

[danielefton.livejournal.com]

I don't recall saying that laura was a liar at all. and I was only explaining MY feelings about how things were being handled. I don't fault her for letting your know she would be in town and able to hang out.

My issue was with her *non-inviting invite* to Saturday night. Which apparently is moot anyway since it never happened. And also since we may have 6 inches of snow Saturday morning and more by that evening.

Am I wrong for being upset at thinking that someone invited themselves to my home? I admit that I may have misread everything, but I don't think I was wrong in my feelings. I will also admit that I was brash and rude myself in the way I handled it.

[silva-draconis.livejournal.com]

I was not fishing for an invite, I said so bc I wanted to make it clear that if you all were doing something special that you had planned for Saturday night that I would understand if you didn't want me there, but that I was coming into town saturday. I'm not just staying for the weekend btw, I will be in town all week. From Saturday to Saturday. I replied to Rita's comment on Katie's journal bc that just seemed like the easiest thing to do, there was no offense meant on my part by that. I'm closer to Rita than to you and felt more comfortable answering to her reply about the event than randomly on your journal or hers.

I also live 4 hours away and so can't come into BG that often and am also trying to make a living when I have never done so before. Yes I'm living with my sister, but it is still a stressful situation for me and I would like to see people I am friends with while I have the time.

It is short notice, and I'm sorry but I just didn't think about it until I saw the comment. I didn't want to force Jen or Katie to make the hour drive to see me and then the hour back home if they didn't have the time. I know Katie and jen are busy and it seemed selfish of me to ask them to spend gas money one me alone, but I don't think wanting to see my friends, even if I am only in town for a few days is pitiful daniel; especially when I've been friends with them for years. Asking isn't pitiful, if I had demanded then I might be a bitch but wanting to see my friends, even if it's just for a few moments does not make me somehow less.

And the 'out' as you put was not that at all. It was a spur of the moment comment on a random post and I hadn't talked to my parents about it yet. They haven't seen me for 3 months either and they might not have wanted me to spend all night or part of the night out when I had just gotten into town , I didn't know.

If this comment sounds bitchy or insulting I'm sorry, but I don't like being attacked randomly by a friend. Dammit Daniel you made me cry.

[kaciagemini.livejournal.com]

ILU LAURA
DUN CRIES EVER PLZ.

[ladykittykatwku.livejournal.com]

I'll tell you, I love you madly, but this is the major problem I have with our friendship and why I haven't really made any move to contact any of you in the past few months. My boyfriend of the past two year breaks up with me suddenly and I don't hear a peep. Laura gets all emo because Daniel says something she doesn't want to hear, and it's all OMG LAURA ILU DON'T BE SAD. You're always up for hanging out with happy fun time Rita, but you're never around when I actually need you.

Write this off as Rita's being bitchy again, or blame the fact that I'm in massive amounts of pain, whatever.

[kaciagemini.livejournal.com]

I don't know what to say to you when you're upset like this. I never know what to say to you when you're upset. I'm sorry my emotional retardedness makes me seem like a bad friend. We've been through this discussion enough times that I know it bothers you. If I could be better I would be. I honestly can't count the number of times you've posted about being upset about something that I've opened up a reply box and just sat there and stared at it before giving up and closing it. I know you expect something from me but I can't comprehend what it is. I don't know the right words to say to make things right in your world. If I can't make it right, what good am I doing? I'm not good at sharing and bonding over emotional pain because I don't let my own pain stick and so it's basically impossible to let anyone else's either.
Bottom line: It bothers me when you are sad. When you post about things that upset you, I get upset too. Always. I love you. I care. I know it isn't enough for me to just tell you that, but it's all I've got.

I'm sorry if it seems hypocritical that I defended Laura. If someone had attacked you in my journal I would have done exactly the same for you.

If I thought I could flat-out command you into not ever being upset I would try it, but I'm not that delusional.

Now I have to go get my five hours of sleep that seems to be all I can ever get lately so I can deal with kidlets tomorrow.

[ladykittykatwku.livejournal.com]

It didn't feel hypocritical that you defended Laura, it just sucks that she got upset over a livejournal comment and within second you were there for her, but when I sunk into a massive depression, you were nowhere to be found.

No one ever knows what to say. But trying is what counts, an occasional 'ilu' or 'I'm sorry' or 'Is there anything I can do' goes a long way.

[ladykittykatwku.livejournal.com]

*deep breath* H'okay. First of all you didn't reply to my comment, you replied to Katie's journal and if I hadn't been bored, I never would have seen it. And you were obviously fishing for an invite if your parents didn't need you at home, which is the way we used to operate, so I kinda understand it.

However.

I no longer live alone. And I've become a lot more anal about people just inviting themselves over since I've had some issues with another friend you guys don't know. I can't and no longer really want to throw together a huge party at the last second, and if people are going to show up and spend the night drunk in our house, we need to know in advance so we can plan accordingly.

Daniel was right, he and I both have had several posts up in the last week, at any point you could have just commented to us or posted in your journal "hey guys, I'm going to be in town next week" and given us all a chance to say "Oh, hey, we're getting together, why don't you join us" rather than dropping hints that really only annoy me and make me not want to deal with it or even this gathering, really, anymore.

I love you, and I love Katie and Jen, and I love Daniel madly, moreso because he's managed to be here for me when in 3-4 years of friendship with the rest of you, you haven't bothered to be.

That all being said, I repeat, I love you all. If you still want to get together on Saturday, the same rules apply, those who live in town will be expected to return to their homes to sleep. But if it's going to turn into a bitch session or just a mass of fights, I'd prefer it didn't happen.

[kaciagemini.livejournal.com]

It's no skin off my back if we don't party on Saturday night. I have plenty of other responsibilities I should be tending to this weekend anyway, not least of all the completion of my application to LSU.

Perhaps we can get together at some later point that is less stressful for you.

[ladykittykatwku.livejournal.com]

Alright then, raincheck it is.

Have a good weekend, guys.

[kaciagemini.livejournal.com]

We could hang out Saturday afternoon, maybe, if you get in by then or possibly at some point on Sunday (worked around my nephew's b-day party at Chuck-E-Cheese [shoot me now] and my eye appointment in the afternoon). When exactly are you leaving? You said the week, right, so will you be around for part of next weekend?

[silva-draconis.livejournal.com]

I hope to be in town Saturday afternoon, but I've learned within the last day that there is a large snow storm moving into my area and I am at least an hour away from an interstate so I might not be able to drive until Sunday. I hope to leave here sometime around l0 your time so that would put me in BG around three. I am going to be in town all week, so I'll be around until Saturday or Sunday of next weekend.

I really didn't mean anything by my comment Katie, and I'm sorry if it's caused you any problems. See my above reply to Daniel and thank you. I love you an Jen and I hope to see you this weekend or the next.